Being asked to be a groomsman is an honor, but it’s also a responsibility. While the groom is the star of the show, his groomsmen play a crucial role in keeping the day running smoothly. From helping the groom stay calm to making sure the party keeps going, groomsmen duties go far beyond just showing up in a nice suit.
If you’re wondering what’s expected of you as a groomsman, here’s a complete guide to your wedding day responsibilities—from morning prep to the final send-off.
What Are the Groomsmen’s Duties on a Wedding Day?
Arrive on Time and Ready to Help
The wedding day kicks off early, and groomsmen should arrive at the designated location (hotel, venue, or groom’s home) on time. Your job is to make sure everything goes smoothly for the groom, and that starts with being punctual and prepared.
✔ Double-check your attire (tux, tie, shoes, cufflinks, and boutonniere)
✔ Make sure the groom has everything he needs (tie, cufflinks, vows, etc.)
✔ Be available for any last-minute tasks (helping with setup, running errands)
Pro Tip: Set a reminder the night before to check that you have everything you need. Scrambling for missing cufflinks or a forgotten tie on the wedding morning is the last thing you want.
Keep the Groom Relaxed and Focused
Wedding day nerves are real, and as a groomsman, one of your most important duties is keeping the groom calm. Whether that means cracking a joke, playing music, or sharing a drink, your presence should help him feel relaxed.
✔ Offer words of encouragement
✔ Distract him with lighthearted conversation if he’s feeling nervous
✔ Make sure he eats something before the ceremony
Pro Tip: If the groom forgets to eat, have some snacks or water nearby to keep his energy up. Weddings are long days, and you don’t want him running on empty!
Get Dressed and Look Sharp
The wedding photos will last forever, so looking your best is non-negotiable. Groomsmen should be well-groomed and dressed properly in their assigned attire.
✔ Put on your suit or tuxedo and make sure everything fits well
✔ Ensure your tie/bowtie is straight and your shoes are polished
✔ Attach your boutonniere correctly—ask for help if you’re unsure
Pro Tip: Have a lint roller and pocket square on hand for any last-minute touch-ups.
Assist with Any Last-Minute Details
On the wedding day, unexpected tasks will pop up, and the groom may need help handling them.
✔ Help set up decorations or seating arrangements (if needed)
✔ Make sure the rings are with the best man or officiant
✔ Double-check transportation details for the wedding party
Pro Tip: Be proactive. If you see something that needs to be done, take care of it before the groom even has to ask.
Keep the Groom’s Phone and Belongings Safe
Once the wedding festivities begin, the groom won’t want to worry about personal items. Groomsmen should keep an eye on any important belongings, such as:
✔ The groom’s phone and wallet
✔ The wedding rings (if the best man needs backup)
✔ Extra essentials like tissues or breath mints
Pro Tip: If the groom has a letter or gift for the bride, offer to deliver it at the right time.
Walk Down the Aisle Gracefully
During the ceremony, groomsmen have a formal role in the processional. You’ll likely be paired with a bridesmaid and will need to walk at a steady pace down the aisle.
✔ Stand tall, walk slowly, and look confident
✔ Smile and avoid fidgeting during the ceremony
✔ Stand in your assigned spot and maintain good posture
Pro Tip: Rehearsal is key! Attend the ceremony rehearsal the day before to ensure you know where to stand and when to walk.
Be the Groom’s Right-Hand Man at the Reception
Once the ceremony is over, it’s time to celebrate! But groomsmen still have responsibilities during the reception.
✔ Help usher guests to their seats
✔ Be available for toasts and photos
✔ Encourage guests to hit the dance floor
✔ Assist with any last-minute reception needs
Pro Tip: Groomsmen help set the tone for the party. If you’re having fun, guests will feel more encouraged to join in!
Participate in Special Wedding Events
Groomsmen should be present for key moments at the reception, including:
✔ The Grand Entrance – Walk in with style when introduced at the reception
✔ Toasts – If you’re giving a speech, keep it short, meaningful, and lighthearted
✔ Special Dances – Be ready to dance with bridesmaids or family members if asked
Pro Tip: If you’re nervous about speaking, write down your speech and practice ahead of time.
Look Out for the Groom Throughout the Night
Weddings can be overwhelming, and the groom may not always have a moment to himself. Make sure he’s enjoying the night by:
✔ Bringing him a drink or plate of food if he’s too busy mingling
✔ Helping him get a breather if he needs a quick break
✔ Handling any guest concerns or distractions so he doesn’t have to
Pro Tip: Keep an eye on how much the groom is drinking—you don’t want him getting too carried away before the night is over!
Help with the Send-Off & Final Details
At the end of the night, groomsmen assist in wrapping up the celebration.
✔ Help gather gifts, decorations, or personal items
✔ Ensure the couple’s getaway car is ready
✔ Say final goodbyes and send off the newlyweds in style
Pro Tip: Offer to help the couple pack up any last-minute essentials before they leave.
Final Thoughts
Being a groomsman is more than just standing at the altar—it’s about supporting your friend on one of the biggest days of his life. Whether it’s keeping the groom relaxed, making sure things run smoothly, or helping set the tone at the reception, your role is essential to making the wedding a success.
If you’re part of a wedding at The Clubhouse at Galloping Hill, you’ll have the perfect setting to enjoy the day while carrying out your groomsman duties in style. With stunning views, elegant reception spaces, and expert coordination, everything is designed to ensure an unforgettable experience.
So, suit up, show up, and make sure your best friend has the best wedding day possible!